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WHY DO WE NEED IT?

THERE CAN NOT BE MORE IMPORTANT ISSUE THAN CHILD AND SPIRITUALITY IN TODAY'S WORLD. Configuration of future world depends on how parents and society can instill spirituality in children. Our inborn basic habit of destructive mentality born out of instinct for survival needs to be broken during childhood. Human mind has intrinsic virtue of desire which drives the human life, being, spirit, existence etc. Child's main desire from birth onwards is parents' love and then love and compassion from everybody around him. This desire of love and compassion is non-materialistic. We have started preserving cord blood for stem cells, sperms, various body organs etc. all materialistic items. To my great wonder, we have not thought of preserving nonmaterialistic desire of child which can totally change the world. The conversion of child's non-materialistic desire into materialistic desire has lead to the all problems that exist in family, society, religions and among countries.

 

HOW NON-MATERIALISTIC DESIRE IS CONVERTED IN TO MATERIALISTIC DESIRE ?

Attitude of everybody around child and society is responsible for destroying the innocence of child. Innocent mind is vacuum mind. It is full of truthfulness. It accepts everything as it is. And when innocence is lost, vaccum gets filled with prejudices. Now our mind will see through the eyes of prejudices and will never see anything as it is. So, same thing will look different at different time to the same person and same thing will look different to different persons at the same time. And this is the problem, responsible for all ills in the society. So simple to preserve the innocence and so difficult to destroy it and still we are doing that. And with innocence goes the truthfulness.
Child craves for our quality time; his desire gets fulfilled by playing with him as a child. You will wonder how much your child is overjoyed by your gesture of spending at least an hour of time. Instead, we try to provide him with best clothing, best food, best toys and all other amenities according to our bank balance. Have you ever asked your child what you like out of this two? Honestly putting the matter in correct perspective while talking to a child will automatically instill that virtue in a child. If you want your child when he becomes an adult with you at your bed side leaving all important work when you are elderly and sick, spend quality time in his childhood. If you want yourself being surrounded by doctors, nurses and virtual hospotal at your bed side while you are eldery sick and your child is on vacation abroad with his family, provide him with all best amenities in his childhood. So suprising, so real, isn't it? You gained what you sawed. Best thing any parents can give to their child is quality time which costs nothing.
Everybody tend to appreciate look, cloth, smartness, academic performance etc. This is all he has done. In many subtle and obvious ways. child's mind is imprinted with importance of materialistic success. Actually, he needs to be recognized for his individuality, for which he is, his spirit, enthusiasm, imagination, inquisitiveness, creativity, truthfulness etc. and not for what he does.

WHAT DO YOU WANT YOUR CHILD TO BE? WHAT IS THE GOAL IN YOUR IN MIND?
A simple question. Isn't it? An academic excellence from childhood, a great personality, powerful, monetarily rich, so on and so forht. I ask. What next? What next?... How long can you answer? Simply, one needs constant state of happiness from birth to death. Parenting and education is genuinely successful when we are able to instill constant state of happiness without any reason in the mind of child. That should be the goal of parents and education for every child. Very rare to find. Goal is important but it is not important whether you achieved it or not. Most vital aspect is your journey towards goal should be joyful, intrinsically fulfilling and inducing happiness.
CAUSE AND EFFECT RELATIONSHIP
Common notion of achieving traditionally defined success involves multidimensional aggressive efforts, defining child as clever by good academic performance in exams and gaining the knowledge as memorized information which is nothing but dead facts. Parents strive to provide all available resources in a fanatic way, child strives to attain good academic grade in a robotic way and education strives to make child swallow questions and answers in imposing way to be vomited out at the time of exams. In nutshell, confirming strong belief that better educational performance is sure path to success in life. Conveying mesage that success depends on what you do.
Spiritually speaking, success depends on what you are and not on what you do. Success is natural. Every child is endowed with success. Success is inherent. Child needs to be taught what they are. How you can do that? Every child is a message send by God to humanity. We are supposed to docode this message from child. Child is a product of nature. He is to be taught to remain natural, to be with nature, and let them explore nature, be part of nature and make them aware about functioning of nature. If they are explained mechanism of functioning of nature and they imbibe and apply same principle in thier life, they become the part of nature where success is essentially and supremely natural bringing forth truth that success lays in what you are and not in what you do.
SPIRITUALLITY AS COMPANION
By the time, parents become aware about the important of spiritual aspect of parenting, if child has already grown up doesn't mean that you have missed the bus. Even late inculcation of spiritual principle in child will help him overcome difficult times in life with ease. Spirit is a guiding force, motivator, internal instructor and all time companion. With spirit, essence, being, consciousness, whatever you call it, your life goes in harmonious and effortless manner which is internally satisfying and fulfilling. Child imbibed with spirit loves himself and everybody, be compassionate, be imaginative mad be creative. He will certainly absorb the meaning of life and purpose of life. He himself is happy and will try to make other people happy as well. He is fully aware that he is nature's gift to humanity and will try to disperse joy and happiness amongst the people. His intelligence is always connected with supreme creativity, master intelligence, eternal truth, supreme consciousness, and eternal source of energy, God, whatever you call it. And so, he will never find himself directionless or detached from nature.
 



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